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The following CFLCW Members provided extra financial support to make this Tour information available to you.

  • Nanette Karls, JD2017 SILVER SPONSOR

    Nanette Karls, JD

    Koritzinsky & Karls, LLC, 414 D'Onofrio Drive, #300 Madison WI 53719

    Nanette's practice focuses in the areas of Family Law, Residential Real Estate, and Estate Planning. Nanette graduated with Honors from the University of Wisconsin Madison in 1988, and Cum Laude from the University of Wisconsin Law School in 1991. She is a member of the Dane County Bar Association, and the State Bar of Wisconsin. Nanette also serves on the Board of Directors for the Collaborative Family Law Council of Wisconsin, Inc. Contact Nanette at 608-833-7799   koritzinskykarls.com

  • Driftless Mediation2017 SILVER SPONSOR

    Rebecca Oettinger, JD

    Driftless Mediation & Family Law, LLC, 314 Ash Street, Baraboo 53913
    A  graduate of the University of Wisconsin Law School, Rebecca practiced family law at a large firm before opening Driftless Mediation and Family Law  LLC in 2014.  Years of handling contested divorce trials convinced her that most families benefit more from negotiating their own settlements than from treating divorce like a lawsuit between enemies.  Through services like Collaborative Divorce and facilitative mediation, Rebecca can help you change your family structure in a way that minimizes the damage to your family’s relationships and finances. Contact her at 608-963-4858. www.driftlessmediation.com   

  • Steve Meyerson, CPA2017 SILVER SPONSOR

    Steven Meyerson, CPA

    Steven Meyerson, CPA LLC, 10144 N Port Washington Rd, Suite 2D, Mequon, WI 53092
    Divorce can often involve complex financial issues.  These issues can be intensified by emotional disputes covering child custody, infidelity and living expenses. Attorney’s can guide you through the applicable laws, but when it comes to the financial side of the negotiations, A CPA is best suited to help solve the fiscal puzzle.
    www.mequoncpa.com     (262) 478-0419

  • Christine M. King, CFP2017 SILVER SPONSOR

    Christine M. King, CFP, CRPC, CDFA

    Christine M. King, CFP, CRPC, CDFA

    I help my clients achieve their dreams for today, tomorrow, and well into the future starting with a personalized conversation about covering essentials, ensuring lifestyle, preparing for the unexpected and leaving a legacy. By breaking your financial goals down into doable steps, we can help take the uncertainty out of planning for your financial future. I’m here to help you live the life you’ve earned. www.ameripriseadvisors.com   (262) 901-1578 

  • Jill Klotz Flitter, PhD2017 SILVER SPONSOR

    Jill Klotz Flitter, PhD

    Jill Klotz Flitter, PhD, Integrated Psychology Center, 1619 Monroe Street, Madison, WI 53711
    I help families and couples navigate the challenges of divorce through my roles as a divorce coach, child specialist, parent coordinator, and co-parent counselor.  Aiming to minimize the potential negative impact of divorce on children and to foster healthy relationships among family members, I help families of diverse constellations and ages.  I am a board member of the Collaborative Family Law Council of Wisconsin and a member of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts.
    www.integralpsychology.com     (608) 255-9330

  • Robert McMillian Arthur, JD2017 SILVER SPONSOR

    Robert McMillian Arthur, JD

    Arthur Law Offices, LLC
    Robert McMillan Arthur is an attorney practicing in the Metro Milwaukee area and the Fox Valley. He is a general practitioner, concentrating in Family Law, Entertainment and Intellectual Property Law, Small Business Law, and Nonprofit Law. He graduated cum laude from Marquette University Law School. He is a member of the State Bar of Wisconsin, the Milwaukee Bar Association, and also a board member of the Collaborative Family Law Council of Wisconsin.
    (414) 501-2370

What is The Collaborative Tour?

The Tour is a series of pages that will provide you with an overview of the Collaborative Process, the professionals you will work with as you participate, and how they support you. While the Collaborative Process is well defined, it is flexible and you and your team will do what works for you and your situation.

Before You Start the Tour - Myths & Realities

One of the mainstays of the Collaborative Process is that every aspect is transparent - information is shared with everyone and all interests are considered. It is also important to have some common knowledge and understanding about divorce. The FAQ page provides some valuable information, and the Tour will address the process and participants. But here are some very important Myths & Realities about divorce and Collaborative:

Myth or Reality #1 - Collaborative is Easier or Faster

Myth: No divorce is easy, unless it involves 2 people with no belongings, no interests, no children, no financial assets, no debts and no needs for the future. You can "do it yourself" in that type of situation. Collaborative is designed to minimize the emotional and financial drain of divorce, and allow couples to focus on everyone's best interests. The process is not necessarily easier, but the outcome is almost always better for everyone. In Wisconsin no divorce can be accomplished in less than 120 days - the minimum waiting period set by state statute. In Collaborative, you set the pace, not the Court.

Myth or Reality #2 - Collaborative is Cheaper

Reality: It CAN be but most importantly the process is more efficient from a financial perspective. Collaborative uses the best professionals for the issue at hand and while the total cost may be similar to other forms of divorce, the outcome is more customized to your situation. In litigation all the fees typically are paid to the attorney, even if they lack the expertise for the issue. For example, with Collaborative you develop a Parenting Plan with a Child Specialist trained and experienced in drafting plans that make sense for your situation. And the hourly fee of the expert is almost always less than an attorney. In litigation or traditional divorce, the attorney will draft the plan, and charge you for that even though they have no training with parenting plans. Collaborative is a better emotional, practical and economic decision.

Myth or Reality #3 - Collaborative costs more because of all the people involved.

Myth: Compared to the typical contested litigated divorce, there are actually LESS people involved in a Collaborative divorce. Collaborative involves a single neutral financial expert that helps you understand the financial aspects of your situation now and in the future and provides options for you to consider. In litigation, both sides hire "expert witnesses" to argue about each other's numbers. In litigation, you and your partner will pay for time and materials spent in discovery and witnesses and depositions and filings and a host of other exercises devoted to conflict.

Myth or Reality #4 - Collaborative uses therapists and I don't need therapy

Myth: the professionals that serve as Divorce Coaches and Child Specialists are not engaged to provide therapy. Child Specialists provide input and insight into your children's interests and attitudes, regardless of age. Even adult children can participate in this manner. The Coach is there to help you deal with the emotional aspects and help with educating the Collaborative team about your interests and needs without diagnosing or therapeutic intervention.

Myth or Reality #5 - Another lawyer told me Collaborative lawyers won't fight for me

Myth: That statement reveals a lack of understanding about the Collaborative process. Your Collaborative attorney represents you in the process and both you and your partner have your own lawyers. Your lawyer does advocate for you. What Collaborative attorneys also strive to do is look at the interests of everyone else in or impacted by the process - your partner, your children, even adult children and grandparents - to help craft a settlement that you support because it makes sense for everyone. If your goal is to hurt your spouse or children, to make them pay, or get as much as you can regardless of what does to everyone, then Collaborative is not a process for you. Litigation, which is very expensive and confrontational, can provide that outcome at what we believe to be a tremendous cost to you and your family.